Holistic Virtual Psychotherapy & Counselling
Relationships
Relationships are an important part of our lives, which is why it can be so hard when we’re dealing with challenges with the people we care about. I work with couples and individuals to build healthier and more fulfilling relationships of all types - familial, friendships and romantic relationships (monogamous and non-monogamous).
Insecure Attachment
Negative self-talk is when your mind focuses on everything that is going wrong when it points out your flaws or things that you don’t like about yourself. It’s like having a mean voice in the back of your mind, like an inner critic that follows you around all day. Your inner critic might be telling you things like “I’m not good enough,” “I’m not smart enough” or “no one will ever love me.” Through our work together, we’ll help silence this inner voice and replace it with a kinder and more encouraging way of speaking to yourself.
Relational Trauma
If you feel like your current relationships are being haunted by your past, you might have some relational trauma. This can take the form of experiencing past patterns showing up in your existing relationships and your life.
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These past experiences can take many forms, including childhood abuse, intimate partner violence/abusive romantic relationships, or being betrayed by a partner. Regardless of the cause, relational trauma can affect our ability to trust and connect with other people.
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In therapy, we’ll work on healing the roots of these emotional wounds and learning how to shift the negative beliefs and fears you have about yourself and others. We’ll work on discovering healthier ways of relating to others, building trust and creating more fulfilling, loving, supportive relationships.
Assertiveness and Boundary Setting
If you find yourself saying yes when you often want to say no, then working on assertiveness and boundary setting in therapy might be a good fit for you.
You might find it hard to take up space, and you might also find yourself minimizing yourself and your needs to accommodate others.
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There may even be relationships or situations in your life where you know you are unhappy or not having your needs met, but you find it hard to talk about what you want; you find yourself repressing your feelings about certain things to avoid conflict. In therapy, we can work on building your assertiveness so that you can better express your needs and enforce your boundaries.
Family and Cultural Issues
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Families can be complicated, and navigating familial relationships can be extremely overwhelming. Cultural dynamics and generational trauma can further complicate these relationships.
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If you’re hoping to work through complex family dynamics and break generational patterns, but your family isn’t ready just yet to join in your therapy journey, we can work together to manage your piece of the puzzle - navigating your feelings around your family dynamic, learning how to diffuse conflict, learning how to set healthy boundaries and build your communication skills.
How we treat relationship issues
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Relationship issues might be making you feel especially alone - even when surrounded by loved ones. Therapy can be a great way to make strides in building healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Even when your loved ones aren’t totally on board yet, we can work together to break unhealthy relationship patterns, heal past wounds, and build healthy relationship habits and skills to make your current and future relationships as rewarding as possible.
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Some common therapeutic approaches we’ll incorporate in our therapy together include